Don’t do it for the men, men never notice.

Listen to this and you'll understand where I'm coming from -https://music.apple.com/us/album/no-role-modelz/1600766204?i=1600766436

A while back I was having a conversation with a guy explaining to him why I didn't want to date at the moment. My exact statement was "Right now, is just not the time for me to date because I won't be fully devoted and I just want to pour into myself." His response was childish 🤷🏽‍♀️ He responded and said "Nah.. it's another man involved and you focused on him.." Or I hate when they say "who are you getting cute for!?".. Like, ew that's so middle school. Provide a compliment and move on!!

I think I went on to explain that it wasn't that and I just wasn't in that place to be committed. I find it so triggering that men really think it's really hard for a woman to be alone and just focus on herself. I'm sure not all men have that childish mindset, but that right there was such a turnoff.

So when I say "don't do it for the men, men never notice" I mean just that. Get your hair done for you. Get your mani & Pedi done for you. Takes pics for you. Take a spa day for yourself. Pour into you so much that the man you are dating will understand and appreciate how you handle yourself with care. So that if he wants to take the role of your partner he will follow suit and respect how you carry yourself.